This charm owes a lot to visualisation and using color and in many ways is a learning experience in trusting your own abilities. It may be used in emotional situations, where you feel someone is taking advantage of you, or any time you are bound to someone by possibly a false sense of duty. This technique can be completed in more than one sitting, particularly if you do not want any modifications to be overly dramatic.
Casting Instructions for ‘Breaking the Hold Someone has Over You’
Your image must be one that you feel you can relate to completely. Perhaps the easiest to see is in the form of a rope linking the two of you together. If you are good at seeing color then the best to use is something very similar to iridescent mother of pearl, because that comprises all colors. You might see the image as a rigid bar, which would suggest that there is an inflexibility in the connection between you which may require you to cope with the expectations of others.
The incense is used to create an environment which is free from other influences; this is between you and your perception of the link you have with another person. Light your incense and sit quietly, considering attentively the link between you.
Become aware of the flow of energy between you and gently withdraw your energy, seeing it returning to you and being used for your own purposes rather than the other persons. (This could be sufficient to cause a change in your relationship which has a satisfactory outcome for you.)
Next think carefully about how the other person makes calls on your time and energy – if these are physical, psychological or spiritual. Resolve that you will either not allow this to happen or will be more careful and sparing in your responses. You might develop a symbol for yourself which you can use when you feel you are being sucked in. Preferably use one that amuses you, since laughter is a powerful tool. You could use the picture of a knot being tied, a cork or a stopcock.
Should you decide that you no longer wish to be associated with the person, use a technique which signifies breaking the link. It will be based upon your own personality and that of another person as to how you do so. Visualizing the link simply being cut may bring about a more powerful ending with tears and recriminations, whereas a gentle teasing from the link may be slower but less painful.
It is here that you need to trust your decision with the thought that it has to be done for the Greater Good. If therefore you are feeling that at least some links must be left in place you can do this, for example if you would wish to know when another person is in trouble.
Finally see yourself walking away from the person, free of any bonds between you. Always make certain you leave them with a blessing for their continuing health, happiness and prosperity.
Now you will only become involved with them at your own wish. You can see from the above that in all points you’ve got a choice for your course of action. This is because every stage must be considered very carefully, and not done in anger. You have to remain as dispassionate as possible and always remain true to your own principles.